For some, they come once in a lifetime; for others, they are regular occurrences. Either way, orgies are something you should definitely try if group sex turns you on. These acts are a common sight in movies and TV shows nowadays. As such, it’s safe to say that they are nowhere near as taboo as they were back in the day. You can, in fact, find an orgy next to you in a quick Reddit or Google search and sign up for it in an instance.
Nevertheless, being so common and popular nowadays doesn’t mean that nothing can go wrong. Actually, everything can be pretty stressful for all orgy-going newbies. And that’s okay. Most things in life are when you do them for the first time. So, if you’re looking to join some group sex club, we suggest you ask yourself the following few questions. Once you clear them up, we bet you’ll have one hell of a good time. So, let’s get this orgy going.
‘Am I Mentally Prepared?’
The first question that you should answer concerns you being prepared mentally for what’s about to happen. Sure, tons of sex sounds great by every metric. However, what seems like a good idea, in theory, doesn’t always translate well in real life. Some folks are so eager to participate in an orgy that they disregard any serious thought and consequently experience a horrible time. But don’t despair. This doesn’t have to be the case with you.
To avoid any unpleasant scenario, start by preparing yourself mentally. It’s all fun and games when professional porn stars do it on the screen, but the reality is different. You might not be at the center of attention of others, on one hand. On the other, you might not be able to get your penis up or get properly wet. These are just some examples. You should make sure you’re mentally sound. This way, you’ll lay a proper foundation for an enjoyable orgy.
‘Do I Have to Join an Orgy?’
There’s nothing worse than doing something that’s not true to yourself. We all know the feeling, from professional to personal issues. Yet, the same goes with making sexual decisions. Sometimes, we think that we’ll up our sex lives by doing something extreme. One such example is orgies. Many consider them essential to progress further in terms of sexuality. However, that doesn’t have to be the case.
If you’re not comfortable being surrounded by a group of strangers licking, sucking, and fucking each other, don’t do it. No rule says that you have to be active in orgies to have a great sexual life. Moreover, you might be better off if you remain traditional and just have single-partner sex. There might come a time when you become prepared and eventually decide to join a swinger party, so don’t rush it.
‘How Can I Keep Myself Safe?’
Another important question regarding sex parties deals with their safety. Anyone who is preparing for an orgy must think about health. This goes for both their personal and the health of other people involved in the act. After all, having intercourse with several people isn’t the safest idea. Luckily, even if you and everyone else put safety before all else, you can still reach great pleasure.
The first and obvious thing to have on your imaginary safety list is protection. Yep! Condoms are a must if you’re looking to attend a sex party. But that’s not all. When changing partners — or holes, for that matter — change the rubbers too. Furthermore, folks who organize orgies should think about the health checks of everyone involved. So, if it’s possible, all horny guys and dirty gals should come prepared with a paper that says that they’re clean.
‘How Should I Satisfy Myself?’
Being a part of an orgy means two things — satisfying others and satisfying yourself. Unfortunately, some people disregard the latter and only focus on others. This, however, leads to them having a bad experience. And how couldn’t they feel like that? Sex is only good when all parties get something from it. Therefore, it’s important to know what you like and want others to do to you before you join in on some Eyes-Wide-Shut sex.
Of course, if you don’t want to be a jerk, you must be clear about your intentions when interacting with another person at an orgy. If you want them to give you head, tell them. Don’t grab the back of their neck and shove your genitals into their face. The same goes for any act of penetration, use of sex toys, and even ejaculation. Everyone wants something different, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t find the middle ground.
‘Are There Limits in an Orgy?’
Porn videos of group sex lead us to believe that anything goes in an orgy and that all sorts of kinks and fetishes are welcome. However, we have to spoil things for you.
The question of whether there are limits in an orgy is a legitimate one. In most cases, there are. People involved in these group acts have certain lines over which they won’t go. As such, you should make sure to follow all rules and limits if you don’t want to fuck things up.
Aside from safe sex practices that we’ve mentioned, most orgies will introduce their participants to a set of rules before the whole deal starts. Sometimes, this will mean a paper on which you’ll see what’s okay and what’s not. At some other swinger clubs, the limits might be spoken to you verbally. Either way, it’s essential to respect them. But if you don’t, you’ll probably never again have a chance to participate.
‘What Should I Do if I’m Uncomfortable?’
Lastly, when talking about how to prepare for a sex party, we need to mention the troubles of being uncomfortable. Sadly, the chances are that half the people who are first goers won’t enjoy the whole thing when they witness it with their own eyes. And this is for a number of reasons. For example, the atmosphere might not be to your liking, or you won’t find others attractive enough. Be as it may, you shouldn’t hesitate to quit midway through.
Just like any other sexual experience, being in an orgy should make you feel sexy and good. But if it doesn’t, there’s no point in sticking to it. Feel free to tell others that you don’t feel like participating anymore and politely leave. And don’t worry — no experienced orgy-goer will find it offensive. What’s more, they have probably seen tons of guys and gals walking out on them in the past. It’s just how these extreme sex scenarios go.