Many people believe that orgies are simple and that all they need to do is bring their genitals with them to the party and get naked. However, there is so much more to it, and it requires a lot of organizing. You will need to plan everything prior to fun-times if you want it to work.
Wondering how to organize an orgy? What are the rules? What are the orgy essentials? In this article, we will go through everything you need to know about organizing a sex party and some general rules that usually apply to this type of event.
Set the Rules
Organizing an orgy is not easy, and there are so many things you need to consider. No, snacks shouldn’t be your highest priority. The most important thing is to set the rules and ensure that everyone understands them and that they are on the same page. So the first thing on the list would be to think about all the details that are important for your upcoming orgy.
This includes whether there will be alcohol, ensuring that every participant agrees with what you have planned, whether you will practice safe sex (which is highly recommended), and so on. Some orgies involve a variety of drugs as well, so if you plan on doing something like this, you need to talk to all the participants and see if they are fine with that.
When it comes to drinks, people often have a rule of drink limits, where people can have a certain number of drinks only. Your goal is not to get wasted but to have fun, and a drink limit is a great way to ensure that no one gets carried away in the process. The reason why this is important is the fact that orgies are not as common as you’d believe, and people might get hammered as a way to deal with anxiety or stress. So think about every aspect of the process before you start inviting people.
Lastly, you can think about snacks since sex burns a lot of calories, and you might want to have some kind of food for people to eat while they’re taking a break.
Who’s Coming
Now that you have a basic plan of how things will work, you can proceed to the invitation part. You will have to think about the people you’re going to invite, and you need to be careful. Everyone is different; they all come from various backgrounds, have unique experiences, and so on. Ideally, you will find a group of like-minded people that will enjoy having fun this way.
One of the most important parts when choosing your guests is to find people with positive attitudes toward sex who know the importance of consent. Each act should proceed only if other parties agree to it — rejection happens even during orgies. Moreover, people often hook up with the person they came with, and that’s perfectly normal.
Nothing should be forced, and all the guests need to know how to behave. It is necessary to explain this. People who have never experienced group sex parties believe that orgies are like an all-you-can-eat event. This is untrue. Your goal is to find people who are respectful, know how to behave, and have social skills to initiate sex.
Otherwise, your sex party is bound to fail, and you will be left with an unpleasant situation.
Discreet Invitations
Once you have a group of people on your mind, you can proceed to invitations. How do you do this, you might ask. Should you put an ad on Craigslist and wait for people to come to your house? The answer is no. You need to be discreet about it. Orgies are still considered taboo almost everywhere, and there is no reason to bring a megaphone to the city square to announce the next fuck-fest.
Strangers almost never get invitations for sex parties, which means that you will (most likely) be familiar with your guests. You can send them an invitation by mail or, ideally, hand it to them in person.
When it comes to information, be sure to mention all the relevant details. Of course, you should start with the date, time, and location. Your guests should be able to find the venue, and if you are having a party at your house, write down the address. However, this is just the beginning. You should also mention what kind of sex they should expect, if there is any way they could prepare for it, whether they need to bring anything, and other important things.
Prepare the Essentials
The next task on the list is to prepare for the party. No matter if you are hosting the event at your place or elsewhere, you need to have all the necessary items. Yes, your guests might bring their own necessities, but it is always better to be safe.
There are several items you need to bring (aside from snacks). The number one item on the list is protection. Always use condoms, and keep in mind the number of people visiting so that you don’t experience a shortage. Furthermore, you might want to consider getting lubricants and a lot of them.
Prepare the place for your guests’ arrival. Think about every step of the process and what your guests might need. It is always good to have separate rooms for resting, a place where someone could change, and so on.
Finally, if it is a drinking orgy, ensure that you have enough alcohol. However, try not to get too much to avoid drunk guests.
Warming up and Partying
Once your guests arrive, you can start having fun. Create a playlist and fill it with suitable music — something that’s not too loud or aggressive, unless your guests are into that. Some hosts like to have a monitor so that they can keep an eye on the situation and ensure that everything goes according to your plan. Of course, you shouldn’t record anything, and that monitor should be just for… well, monitoring.
One of the first things you should do is set the rules and ensure that everyone is on the same page. While they should already be familiar with the plan, it’s always best to say everything again.
As soon as your guests are comfortable, you can start serving cocktails and other drinks that will help you all get in the mood.